Self-Sabotage: Stop It!

In Steven Pressfield's book "Do the Work" he says that all people have a voice in their heads that attempts to sabotage their best efforts.

He calls this voice or urge to give up "resistance." Resistance doesn't want you to do anything new, or risk looking silly in order to achieve a goal or dream. It lists all of the reasons why you can't accomplish something, and causes you to find every opportunity to procrastinate.

Have you ever started out working on a new endeavor with gusto only to drop the idea half-way through? Do you long to take a new class, start a new business, or complete a new work of art or social importance, but can't seem to find the time? You are most likely listening to resistance and sabotaging yourself.

In his article, "How Not to Sabotage Yourself" Sam Ferrigno, gives a list of things you can do to ensure that resistance doesn't win.

We all have goals, dreams, and even to-do lists that we want to place check marks next to.

It is time to stop sabotaging ourselves, and start accomplishing what we set out to do.

Live Differently

"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.'" -Erma Bombeck


This past week I've come across two things that speak of what people think about most before their life is over. Whether it is a list of regrets or things left undone, what is important in life becomes clearer just before it's over.

I was shaken by this list of things dying people say they most regret.  More than half of the things on the list are things that I often put off for "one day." There are also things on the list that I spend too much time worrying about.

Ric Elias was on Flight 1549 when it went down in the Hudson River. In this video he recounts the moment when he thought his life was over, and what he has learned from it.

“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. ” - Oprah Winfrey

The older I get, the more I see how fast time passes. I acknowledge that "one day" often becomes never.

There's a lot that I still want to do and accomplish in my life. I'm sure I can't be the only one who feels like there is so much more to be done. 

Whatever your goals or dreams are, you have to go after them. Today.

The time to do these things is now. Of course this is known in theory, but time doesn't wait for you to actually take action. That is up to you.

“Action expresses priorities.”-Gandhi

I've decided to do at least one thing every day that will put me closer to living my dreams and being the type of person I have always wanted to be.

What can you do to live differently NOW?

If you need a little push, here are some great quotes about life to get you going.

Under Pressure

We all know what pressure is. Pressure from family, friends, our jobs, even ourselves can cause us to fail at any goals we undertake.

Sometimes family members think putting you down is the best way to make you angry enough to change a bad habit. Having people close to you criticize you may not be helpful at all. Instead it may cause you to give up on your desired outcomes altogether.

There are, however, some ways that pressure can be good for you.

It is important to know which kind of pressure inspires you and which kind hinders you.

Deadlines: For me, I work best when I have a specific date and/or time when something must be completed. Whether I'm taking a college course or must turn in my latest article to an editor, having a deadline inspires me to get my work done.

Accountability: Having to allow others to view my work, makes me work that much harder to ensure that it is as near perfect as possible. Anyone seeing my work as half-done, or lazy is embarrassing to me. Just knowing that someone else will see and judge my work motivates me.

Growth: "If you're the smartest one in the room, you're in the wrong room." Richard Tirendi.

This quote fully illustrates the type of pressure that motivates me most. I love to be surrounded by, and held to the same standard as people who are smarter and more experienced than I am. It forces me to stretch and learn in ways I could not have imagined.

It is important to recognize when the pressure you feel is positive, and utilize it.

Leverage positive pressure to achieve your goals in 2014!

What kind of pressure motivates you?

Keep Your Resolutions Links

Have you created a list of new RESOLUTIONS for 2014? If you are like most people, some of your resolutions from 2013 may be the same ones you have this year.

In an effort to help us all achieve our goals this year, I went searching for some advice.

Here are a few links I've come across:

• Prepare to Receive- We all have things that we would like to have happen in our lives, this article talks about preparing yourself to receive what you really want.
• No Weight Loss Resolutions- This article from Spark People talks about making resolutions that focus more on your health than a number on the scale.
• Get Organized- Plan to succeed with these great organizers, and tips.
• Lean in 2014- Follow one woman's quest to become lean and healthier in the new year.
• Money Saving Tips for 2014- Some ideas for things not to buy this year that may end up saving you a lot of money.
• 7 Financial Habits That Will Change Your Life- If you are looking to completely improve your financial future, check out this article.
• Resolutions You Should Really Make- 25 resolutions that will really improve your year.
• 2014 Playist- Some music to get you motivated.
• Create a Daily Contract- This is an interesting article about things you can do daily to create a better life.

Dr. Wayne Dyer Seminar

From January 11-17th, Hay House, founded by Louise Hay, will have a FREE seven day seminar to help you Start the New You Now.

This seminar offers days of inspiration and instruction featuring Dr. Wayne Dyer and other notable life and wellness coaches.

This FREE seminar begins with four free videos which are already posted on the website.

This is a great opportunity to receive an extra push into being exactly who you want to be.

Registration is open now, and it's FREE.

Happy 2014!

Can you believe it? A new year is here again!

Here is a post from last year, which may still be helpful today. "This Year I Will" helps you to actually accomplish what you set out to do at the beginning of the year.   It is important to remember that each and every single day of this year counts.

So put in the effort, in order to reap the rewards.

What are your resolutions for this year? What can you do today to start off on the right foot?