Monday, October 27, 2014
Some people have a problem saying no to people, situations, or obligations because they are afraid to be seen as "not nice." These "yes" people often over-commit themselves and then feel worn down and unappreciated at the end of the day.
It is a skill to learn how to say no and mean it. People pleasers must learn how to say yes only when they truly want to. They must say no and not feel guilty afterwards.
As someone who is the oldest child, I was relied upon for almost everything growing up. This then lead to me feeling like I needed to be there for, and fix everything for, everyone. When friends or family asked anything of me the answer was almost always yes. Yes, even if I was exhausted or sick, and I'd get angry about.
I too had to learn how to say no. On the flip side, sometimes when it comes to ourselves, "yes" people say no too often.
Are you saying:
No to a job interview with a new company because you're afraid of leaving your current job?
No to a first date because your last relationship ended horribly?
No to relocating to a new city because you are afraid of the economy?
No to a night out with friends because you fear rejection?
No to going back to school because you think you will fail?
It is important to know when you are saying no, because you really do not want something, and when you are just holding yourself back.
Don't let fear make you stay in a constant state of misery. Practice saying no more often to what you do not want, and YES to new opportunities and adventures!
Monday, October 20, 2014
So here I am on my weight loss journey again. This time, however, instead of just being concerned about fitting into a cute pair of skinny jeans, I'm more concerned about my health.
When doctors tell me everything that is wrong with me, and how many pills they are going to want me to take, I realize how much I've taken my health for granted.
In my effort to get well, I began searching for ways that foods can help me to not only lose weight, but heal my body.
I watched great documentaries like "Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead" and "Vegucated" which show the power of fruits and vegetables.
There is a ton of health information everywhere you look. I try to just stick with what is simple and natural.
Here are some of the other things I have come across this week:
- Eight Foods You Should Eat Everyday
- Because you can't accomplish any positive change with a negative mind, "How to Turn Your Negative Mind Into a Positive One"
- If you're just starting to workout, you may not realize that you are doing some moves the wrong way. "8 Exercises You're Probably Doing Wrong"
- Because all work and no fun makes for a boring life, "10 Cocktails With 150 Calories or Less."
- 55 Healthy Snacks Under 200 Calories
- Giving me something to aspire to, here are some fitness festivals happening next year.
- Yoga anyone? "Fat Melting Yoga Moves You Can Do at Home"