Monday, November 17, 2014
Is Someone Holding You Back?
Next we need support. This support can come from family, friends, a romantic partner, or even coworkers. It is important to be able to differentiate between actual help and support and nay saying.
Sometimes people who love us think they have our best interest at heart when they tell us, not to move forward.
"Don't leave that job. I know you hate it, but the economy is bad. You won't find another more fulfilling job any time soon."
"Do you really think you should try and be your own boss? Someone I know tried it and failed miserably. They had to file for bankruptcy."
"Why do you need to stick to your diet? You did good all week, it's okay to splurge on the weekend. Go ahead and have that cake and ice cream."
"Why would you want to move to that new city, you don't even know anyone there? You might not find work and end up homeless, get murdered, catch a fatal disease, or be so lonely you will come running back. You might as well just stay put."
Statements like these, while laced with concern, are often just barriers to your success.
As people on a mission, we have to know when to cut the nay sayers, and fake supporters off.
I came across this article about a woman who was obese, and realized she had to break up with her fiance in order to lose weight. Her fiance didn't want her to improve her lifestyle even if it was killing her. So she had to let him go. Check out the article to see how she looks now!
The next time someone offers support that tears you down rather than builds you up, cut them loose. If you can't cut them loose, think about why succeeding at your goals is so important to you. Stay focused and continue to move forward.